What the Red Flags We Ignore Can Teach Us About Love

#6 “I didn’t actually like them”

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Shaking my head over the red flags I have ignored over the years, I decided to do some quantitative research. Okay, I mean I asked three of my best friends a few questions. I knew from our chats that we were all guilty of overlooking some pretty gigantic signs that this was not True Love. What I didn’t know was why we did it.

I wanted to write something that showed how dumb we can all be when it comes to relationships, and also to share a bit of research that might help us love better in the future. So here are the 6 red flags that my friends most regret ignoring, and some thoughts about how we can create better relationships in future.

1. “She slagged off her ex-boyfriend.”

Calling down your previous partner always makes you look bad to a healthy person. Relationships don’t always end amicably, but nobody deserves their name dragged through the mud. Ideally, we like our new partners to be neutral and vaguely loving towards their exes. Respectful but distant.

Meeting somebody who gives their ex the honor and dignity of privacy and kindness is heartwarming and sexy. Take note, Past Me.

2. “He said I loved you way too soon.”