Thanks for writing this, Tesia. I ignored a lot of red flags in a relationship and this helps me to not feel like such a dimwit about it. It inspires me to write about my own experience too, as I believe a lot of men are still getting away with treating women very badly in private, just because they don’t physically hurt them. But it’s scary territory too, especially if your version of events is lesser known, and so might seem suspect, in that way these things can.

I’m sorry you went through this, it is really painful to have to give up on something you have been so hopeful about. If you haven’t yet, I hope you find someone kind and appreciative who you build a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship with — if that’s what you want for yourself. Women don’t need partners to be whole, of course, but relationships can be so easy and such a pleasure with a good partner. Emotionally abusive partners can make us forget that!

Love and light,


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