I was so gutted when I realised I wasn’t and never would be ‘one of the guys’. I hung out with men a lot just to be close to that sort of casual entitlement they seem to move through the world with. You don’t get abused or harrassed so much when you’re with men, after all. (FFS.)

I HATE being teased by men. I grew up with a lot of it, but later saw how it taught me not to take myself seriously, which was very damaging. So much of this gender BS is very triggering.

I’m lucky to be able to write, so can at least get it out of my system this way. And comments like yours help soothe me too, so thanks for getting it.