Thanks for your comment, it's really interesting to read. And yes, the internet when you're just starting out in sobriety can be a dangerous place. I would be happily working through the steps and then one Google search would send me spinning into fear that I'd joined a cult, and my head would be all over the place again.
And you're right, there should be different things on offer. I imagine an updated version of AA! One where you didn't have to close your ears for the parts that were offensive/unhelpful/repetitive.
But they came up with all the best stuff too. All the other sobriety programs seem to lean pretty heavily on the best AA sayings.
I've had a few bad experiences in AA, but mostly I've met wonderful, interesting, kind people. And it's taught me so much, as being a part of any community would, I suppose.
To go straight into some kind of well-meaning community off the back of heavy drinking would be very hard, perhaps. It was only possible for me to get so bedded in because of all the drinking stories. And that's why they are so important for the newcomer who needs to identify the problem.
But when you've been around a while, you're just sick of hearing about it, and I can see why people se that as unhealthy. Or see it as AA members are stuck in the problem.
What are your thoughts on that? Did you try any of the other methods you list here?
Thanks for reading and commenting, it's good to hear your ideas.