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Author, educator, truth-seeker. Writing my way to freedom or thereabouts. Talk to me @cjflood_author. She/her/they.

Six things to look out for if you’re worried about your drinking.

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Sarah Allen Benton’s book, Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic explodes old stereotypes of alcoholism. She explains that these ideas are not only wrong but dangerous.

It’s something I’ve written about before, the lesser understood fact that there are many different types of alcoholics or people with Alcohol Use Disorders (AUDs)and…

To live her highest potential she needs to quit the booze, so why will she start again?

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Adele hit the news this week because she’s giving up alcohol. Is it strange that this is newsworthy? Perhaps. Does this say more about our obsession with celebrities or alcohol? I’m not sure.

Reading the story I was struck by:

a) how even millionaire hitmakers find 21st Century life…

Behaviors to watch out for so that your relationships stay healthy.

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When I was nine years old I had a beautiful, charismatic best friend. Jessica was pretty, kind, clever and funny, and we had the best time together. Making up plays and dreaming of boys, we got on a treat if it was only the two of us. Add another player…

Or how I spent hundreds of pounds not solving my biggest problems really slowly

None of my therapists looked like this, but you try drawing from memory with aphantasia.

Nice white lady #1, 2015

Trigger: A friend pushed me to go to the doctor after I admitted to having suicidal thoughts. (Apparently, this is alarming. Who knew?)

I cried to the GP and was given a prescription for Citalopram and a number to call the Talking Therapies team. …

How do you form a sense of self when you constantly interrogate who you are?

Recently I have begun learning about the autistic struggle for self, and it is making a lot of sense to me.

My life has been defined by self-doubt. Endless self-interrogation taking the joy from new relationships and jobs alike. Do o really like them? …

#6 “I didn’t actually like them”

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Shaking my head over the red flags I have ignored over the years, I decided to do some quantitative research. Okay, I mean I asked three of my best friends a few questions. I knew from our chats that we were all guilty of overlooking some pretty gigantic signs that…

If you relate to more than three items on this list it might be time to quit

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I like to tell myself that I straddle the wall between sober curious and alcoholic. I’m just a teensy bit addicted. I choose not to drink because my life is better this way. But it took me a long time to get to this decision.

If you’re still unsure whether…

And why it’s important to pay more attention to them

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“It helped me feel more confident.”

“It allowed me to talk to people I fancy.”

“It stopped me feeling so awkward.”

As a member of 12 step fellowships, I hear people talk about why they started drinking a lot. Booze helped socialise. They felt more confident, less hampered by social…

“Diagnosis is synonymous with self-understanding”

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It’s not easy to get a diagnosis of autism as an adult. And there aren’t many (any?) services available. And yet more and more people are pursuing diagnoses.

Why? What is going on here? What do we feel we have to gain?

‘Seems’ is italicised here because it is the…

I was diagnosed last December and I’m still searching for the tools to help me

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A strange thing: many people feel more autistic after diagnosis. But do they feel more autistic? Or does life just seem more challenging?

I was diagnosed recently, at 37, and for me, it’s like this: I know what’s going on — finally. I’m autistic. …

Chelsey Flood

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